An important aspect of recovery for me is making a decision to live into the solution and not the problem; to build up and not tear down; to be supportive and not judgmental; and so forth. I am not always on that path and often diverge quite a bit. But I thoroughly enjoy that the recovery process at least makes me consistently aware that I have a choice as to which side of the fence I am going to stand.
Below, the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh provides one of my favorite examples of living into the solution.
Unmindful Speech Can Kill
Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful speech and the inability to listen to others, I vow to cultivate loving speech and deep listening in order to bring joy and happiness to others and relieve others of their suffering. Knowing that words can create happiness or suffering, I vow to learn to speak truthfully, with words that inspire self-confidence, joy, and hope. I am determined not to spread news that I do not know to be certain and not to criticize or condemn things of which I am not sure. I will refrain from uttering words that can cause division or discord, or that can cause the family or the community to break. I will make all efforts to reconcile and resolve all conflicts, however small.