I like the one-day-at-a-time approach that is promoted in recovery. Yes, it is much easier and less overwhelming to think about not getting into my addictive behaviors for a 24-hour period than for the rest of my life. The latter raises all of those ultimately useless hypotheticals like “You mean I can’t toast when my now two-year-old daughter gets married two decades?” and other such dilemmas.
Rather, I have been thinking less about what I choose not to do, but more about what I can choose to do each day. I have been thinking about:
- being present for my family each day. It is very easy for me to get very wrapped up in a host of other issues and activities and not leave room for those folks who I often take for granted.
- making a difference each day. I appreciate that this can be as simple as saying hello to someone on the street. Making a difference does not mean discovering a cure for cancer, bringing about world peace, or ending hunger. I think of the times when a simple statement of thanks from someone has meant so much to me.
- being consciously grateful each day. I can zoom through life and not smell the roses along the path. I can get caught up in the world crisis of the moment and forget that I am alive and able to play my part in a solution.
- and so forth, each day.
So I like that one-day-at-a-time is not just about choices of things I will not do, but also choices of things that I will do, each day.