Stress and Recovery


We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.  AA Promises

The last couple of weeks have been very stressful for me.  The details are unimportant.  Most of the stress came down to life not going the way I wanted it to go.  I kept saying “if there is any justice in the world” then this issue will resolve itself.  On a couple of occasions resolution seemed near, but then fell apart.  I reconciled myself to the reality that the issue was not going to be resolved the way I wanted.  Effective this morning the resolution turned out the way I believed it should go, “there is some justice in the world” and life goes on with a great deal of stress and anxiety removed.

Here are a few of my takeaways from the last couple of weeks of stress:

  • First and foremost, I did not drink.  Yes, I fed my compulsive overeating – I am still dealing with that active addiction even in the best of times.  However, during my active alcohol addiction, I would have simply climbed into the bottle in trying to avoid the stress.
  • I did not say anything or throw any temper tantrums that I would regret later when dealing with the stressful issue.  During my active alcohol addiction, I would have gone on a campaign to explain how the world was out to get me, life sucks and then you die,  that I was not appreciated . . . .
  • In a calm and reasoned way, I did explain the logic behind my argument with the “powers that be” and was willing to negotiate and compromise to best accommodate everyone’s interest.

So the issue resolved itself well and I can feel a tremendous gratitude for recovery.  Surely, during my days of active alcoholism, the outcome would have been different.  In fact, I would not even be in the position to have experienced this stressful situation as I would still be stuck in the bottle.  Perhaps what I learned most from this recent period of stress was that I was able to prioritize those issues that were most important and act on them.  I was fully prepared to live with the less favorable outcome and make the best of the situation – to live life on life’s terms.

Life can be good with either outcome, so long as I remain sober.